Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
by Melody Beattie
from Hazelden
Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else's, you may be codependent--and you may find yourself in this book.
The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life.
With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency--charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.
Melody Beattie is the author of Beyond Codependency, The Language of Letting Go, Stop Being Mean to Yourself, and Playing It by Heart.
The Language of Letting Go (Hazelden Meditation Series)
by Melody Beattie
from Hazelden
Melody Beattie integrates her own life experiences and fundamental recovery reflections in this unique daily meditation book written especially for those of us who struggle with the issue of codependency.
Problems are made to be solved, Melody reminds us, and the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own pain and self-care. In this daily inspirational book, Melody provides us with a thought to guide us through the day and she encourages us to remember that each day is an opportunity for growth and renewal.
I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality
by Jerold J. Kreisman
from Avon
"AM I LOSING MY MIND?"
People with Borderline Personality Disorderexperience such violent and frightening mood swingsthat they often fear for their sanity. They can beeuphoric one moment, despairing and depressed thenext. There are an estimated 10 million sufferersof BPD living in America today -- each displayingremarkably similar symptoms:
- a shaky sense of identity
- sudden violent outbursts
- oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection
- brief, turbulent love affairs
- frequent periods of intense depression
- eating disorders, drug abuse, and other
self-destructive tendencies - an irrational fear of abandonment and an
inability to be alone
For years BPD was difficult to describe, diagnose, andtreat. But now, for the first time, Dr. Jerold J. Kreismanand health writer Hal Straus offer much-neededprofessional advice, helping victims and their familiesto understand and cope with this troubling,shockingly widespread affliction.
Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives
by Pia Mellody
from Harper & Row
Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Central to Mellody's approach is the concept that the codependent adult's injured inner child needs healing. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences.
Adult Children of Alcoholics
by Janet G. Woititz
from HCI
Ten years ago, Janet Woititz broke new ground in our understanding of what it is to be an Adult Child of an Alcoholic. Today she re-examines the movement and its inclusion of Adult Children from various dysfunctional family backgrounds who share the same characteristics. After more than ten years of working with ACoAs she shares the recovery hints that she has found to work. Read Adult Children of Alcoholics to see where the journey began and for ideas on where to go from here.
Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love
by Pia Mellody
from HarperOne
The author of the bestselling Facing Codependence unravels the intricate dynamics of toxic love relationships and shows us how to let go of toxic love. In this revised and updated edition of Facing Love Addiction, internationally recognised dependence and addiction authority Pia Mellody clearly outlines the debilitating 'toxic' patterns played out by love addicts and the unresponsive love avoidants to whom they are painfully and repeatedly drawn.
Codependents' Guide to the Twelve Steps
by Melody Beattie
from Fireside
First the Hurt, Now the Healing...
Millions identified with Melody Beattie in Codependent No More and gained inspiration from her in Beyond Codependency. Now she's back to help you discover how recovery programs work and to help you find the right one for you. Interpreting the famous Alcoholics Anonymous Twelve Steps specifically for codependent issues for the very first time, this groundbreaking book combines Melody's expertise with the experience of other people to:
• Explain each step and how you can apply it to your particular issues• Offer specific exercises and activities to use both in group settings and on your own
• Provide a directory of the wide range of Twelve Step programs -- including Al-Anon, Codependents Anonymous, Codependents of Sex Addicts, Adult Children of Alcoholics, and more
The uniquely warm and compassionate voice of Melody Beattie will inspire you to turn your life around -- one step at a time.
Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time
by Melody Beattie
from Hazelden
You're learning to let go, to live your life free of the grip of someone else's problems. And yet you find you've just started on the long journey of recovery. Let Melody Beattie, author of the classic Codependent No More, help you along your way. A guided tour past the pitfalls of recovery, Beyond Codependency is dedicated to those struggling to master the art of self-care. It is a book about what to do once the pain has stopped and you've begun to suspect that you have a life to live. It is about what happens next.
In simple, straightforward terms, Beattie takes you into the territory beyond codependency, into the realm of recovery and relapse, family-of-origin work and relationships, surrender and spirituality. With personal stories, hard-won insights, and activities, her book teaches the lessons of dealing with shame, growing in self-esteem, overcoming deprivation, and getting past fatal attractions long enough to find relationships that work.
"Melody Beattie is an American phenomenon . . . She connects with age-old quests for self-improvement and rebirth. . . [And she] understands being overboard, which helps her throw best-selling lifelines to those still adrift."
Time
"[This book] goes beyond how we hurt to how we heal."
Veronica Ray, author of Choosing Happiness
Women Who Love Too Much
by Robin Norwood
from Pocket
The relationship classic hailed by Erica Jong as "life-
changing" -- now updated with a new introduction
and resource section!
The #1 New York Times bestseller that asks
ARE YOU A WOMAN WHO LOVES TOO MUCH?
- Do you find yourself attracted again and again to troubled, distant, moody men -- while "nice guys" seem boring?
- Do you obsess over men who are emotionally unavailable, addicted to work, hobbies, alcohol, or other women?
- Do you neglect your friends and your own interests to be immediately available to him?
- Do you feel empty without him, even though being with him is torment?
Robin Norwood's groundbreaking work will enable you to recognize the roots of your destructive patterns of relating and provide you with a step-by-step guide to a more rewarding way of living and loving.
If being in love means being in pain, you need to read Women Who Love Too Much.
How to Break Your Addiction to a Person
by Howard Halpern
from Bantam
Are you in love--or addicted? How to know when to call it quits...and how to find the courage to call it quits.
Are you unable to leave a love relationship even though it gives you more pain than joy?  Your judgment and self-respect tell you to end it, but still, to your dismay, you hang on.  You are addicted--to a person.  Now there is an insightful, step-by-step guide to breaking that addiction--and surviving the split.  Drawing on dozens of provocative case histories, psychotherapist Howard Helpern explains to you:
Why you can get addicted to a person.
Why and how you may try to deceive yourself. ("He really loves me, he just doesn't know how to show it.")
How you can recognize the symptoms of a bad relationship.
How to deal with the power moves and guilt trips your partner uses to hold you.
Why strong feelings of jealousy do not mean you are "in love."
How to get through the agonizing breakup period--without going back.
How not to get caught in such a painful relationship again.
From the Paperback edition.
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